Q.

My husband and I have been married for 32 years. We have seven wonderful children and seven grandchildren. He has often "chased rainbows" financially, lost our dream home in some overseas investments that turned out to be a scam, lost lots of money to his foolish decisions, and filed bankruptcy three times. Sixteen months ago, I had a gut feeling that something wasn't right. He was making poor financial decisions again, and trying to talk family members into doing the same. While uncovering this activity, I discovered porn on his phone and our home computer. He allowed my older boys to take the blame. I also found his profile on a website for married cheaters. I was devastated. To top it off, he started seeing a female psychic with whom he fell in love. They both admitted their romantic feelings for each other, but to this day, they refuse to discontinue contact, saying they will "just remain friends." My husband does not want a divorce; he wants his cake and wants to eat it, too. I am broken-hearted and devastated.

— Loving Wife

A.

Dear Loving,

You've been a doormat for over three decades, while Hubby's been in Fantasia, bankrupting your family, searching for cheating partners, purveying porn sites, blaming your sons, and refusing to leave his latest "love"! Woman, dude's abusive — and he's eating his cake on the table you've set! As my Gilda-Gram says, 

Your move is next!
Prepare your artillery:
1. Stop playing "broken-hearted and devastated "victim." Read my book, "Don't Bet on the Prince!," and convert your lower case "i" ("Boo, hoo, i've been played.") into capital "I" ("I am done!).