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Friday, November 30, 2012

IF IT'S YOURS, YOU CAN'T LOSE IT! --30-Second Therapist, Today Show Website


If It’s Yours, You Can’t Lose It!

By

DR. GILDA CARLE (PH.D.)
30-Second Therapist
Today Show Website

One of my fave Gilda-Grams™ is “If it’s mine, I can’t lose it.  If it’s not, I don’t want it.”  Doesn’t that up your comfort level?  (It does mine!) One reader desperately needs to repeat this mantra: 

Then there’s a guy whose GF is comforting her ex with cancer—but the guy's upset he’s missing his lollipop!  Ohhh!  What do YOU think?

Please continue your wonderful feedback and your questions for use in this “30-Second Therapist” column.
Love,
Dr. Gilda

GONE VIRAL! DAD CRITICIZES HIS GROWN KIDS FOR LACK OF RESPONSIBILITY

HONESTLY, how many parents would be willing to admit this about their kids ?  This dad financed luxurious private school educations for his 3 children--and all he observed has been wonton child-bearing, broken marriages, and poor role modeling for his grandchildren.  AND HE'S HAD IT!  So he sent his grown kids the attached letter:  http://ow.ly/fIaWi

One of his daughters agreed--and, with her dad's permission, sent his letter to a local newspaper.  It's now gone viral.  This daughter said she needed a kick in the ass, and she's begun turning her life around at 40.  This dad's other two children are not happy with their verbal whipping. 

Taking responsibility for your life and your growth is the ongoing theme of all my books, columns, and appearances.  I hope this dad's letter will kick-start more people to unlock this key to their happiness and success.  WHAT DO YOU THINK?
Love,
Dr. Gilda
www.DrGilda.com


  

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

HALLE BERRY'S PROBLEM


EXCLUSIVE!  Dr. Gilda Warns The Vicious Custody Battle Will Have Devastating Long-Term Consequences On Nahla

On Tuesday, Gabriel Aubry failed in his bid to overturn an order banning him from seeing Nahla following that bloodied brawl with Halle Berry’s fiance Olivier Martinez on Thanksgiving.
The fight comes on the heels of a two-year bitter custody war, which has pegged one parent against the other, both in court and in the press.
The latest and most troubling incident resulted after Berry failed in her attempt to move to Paris with her  daughter.
Even Berry’s mother acknowledged that “things need to calm down”.
Former nurse Judith Hawkins told Celebuzz: ”This  cannot go on things have got to calm down. I  hope that things get better, I really hope that they do; they have got to get  better.”
When asked how Berry and Nahla were holding up, Hawkins replied: “As far as I know Halle and Nahla are fine though.”

But is Nahla really fine? She is only four and what impact will this vicious battle have on her as she grows up?

Dr. Gilda fears the impact her parents custody war will have on Nahla as she grows up

“Today” show’s “30-Second Therapist” Dr. Gilda Carle predicts that it will take an emotional toll on the child as she gets older.

“Nahla will grow up believing that men’s role is to LITERALLY fight for their woman,”  Dr. Gilda Carle tells Celebzter. ”She’ll also grow up believing that all men take to abuse and fighting when they can’t get their way.

“Surrounded but nothing but chaos, she’ll seek the same kind of environment when she’s picking partners.  Halle needs a lot of intensive therapy to discover when she keeps picking abusive men, and how she can find someone who doesn’t use his fists.

“Children pick up the cues from their parents’ behaviors, not from the words their parents tell them.”

For the sake of their daughter, perhaps Berry and Aubry should put their emotions to one side and concentrate on the well-being of their daughter, not just today, but in the long-term….



Thursday, November 22, 2012

PARTY TIME---AFTER HURRICANE SANDY





In flooded lower Manhattan after Hurricane Sandy, grateful we could actually get there, to celebrate Cathy Hobbs.

IF HE'S MEANT TO BE YOURS, HE WILL BE!



Are you trying to manipulate a lover to want you?  Forced love is a forgery.  If it's meant to happen, it will--without your interference.

HOW TO AVOID A FAMILY FIGHT DURING HOLIDAYS

This week's "30-Second Therapist" was highlighted on the Today Show. Arguing with family while sitting at the holiday table is common. But many of my readers and fans haven't puffed the peace pipe.  How about you?  

http://holidayblog.today.com/_news/2012/11/20/15314425-how-do-i-avoid-a-family-fight-about-politics-on-thanksgiving?lite

If you're having family problems at Thanksgiving, what will you do during the 12 Days of Christmas?
Love,
Dr. Gilda


Tuesday, November 20, 2012

GUARANTEE HAPPINESS NOW!


Especially during the holidays, if anyone in your family wants to squabble with you, refuse!  No one can argue with someone who won't participate.

Sunday, November 18, 2012

SEEK RESPECT BEFORE LOVE



Most people think they should fall in love, and then worry about respect in their relationship.  WRONG SEQUENCE!  
It should be the other way around!

Saturday, November 17, 2012

FRIENDS WITH NOOO BENEFITS!


Friends WITH NO Benefits!

By

Dr. Gilda Carle (Ph.D.)
30-Second Therapist
Today.com

What are these people thinking? “The woman I love dumped me—but wants us to continue living together because she can’t afford the rent.” Duh!  “Since I want security, should I leave my high school dropout BF for my college ex?”


Loyal readers and fans, I’m anxious to hear your take on these!!

HAVE A GLORIOUS THANKSGIVING, appreciating all you have.  There are so many others less fortunate!

Love,
Dr. Gilda


Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Petraeus: How to Prevent a Spouse from Cheating




We've certainly seen this before:  Rich, powerful men who cheat on their wives.  Eliot Spitzer, John Edwards, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, Mark Sanford, Bill Clinton--and the list goes on...  Why?  And what does their marriage lack? ONE MAIN THING!  Watch this to find out what it is.

Friday, November 9, 2012

THE ORAL FAUX PAS


The harder you try not to make an oral faux pas, the more

likely you are to do just that--since your conscious mind is

forever focusing on what NOT to do!

Why Some Folks Can't Find Love


Why Some Folks Can’t Find Love

Dr. Gilda Carle (Ph.D.)
“30-Second Therapist”
Today.com

There are so many things to consider when you’re partner hunting.  In this week’s “30-Second Therapist,” one woman is too insecure to find love and another is too bitchy.  Both of them will make some poor guy miserable!  What do you think?


Scrutinize your love choices before you get in too deep. You don’t want to be saddled with heartache!

Love,
Dr. Gilda

Friday, November 2, 2012

SEEING SOMEONE & SLEEPING ELSEWHERE


Seeing Someone & Sleeping Elsewhere

By

DR. GILDA CARLE

30-Second Therapist
Today.com

The NY region is experiencing Katrina right now. Fortunately, I have electricity, but I don’t have gas for my car.  Many of my neighbors are shivering in the cold without fuel, so I’m just grateful for whatever I do have, as I say here: http://tinyurl.com/audyjy3

Thankfully, I am taking my mind off my issues with your questions. What do you think of the first advice-seeker who’s looking to cover ALL her bases with ALL the men she knows?  Or the second, who wishes she had more of what the first is getting?


Folks, during these hard times, lube your life!  As my Gilda-Gram says, “Good communication is the best lubrication.”

Love,
Dr. Gilda

Thursday, November 1, 2012